Dani's Interview with RCE
Behind the Scenes with Danielle Grainger SUNDAY, DECEMBER 1, 2019
Please join Danielle Grainger with a behind the scenes look at her sizzling debut novel, Wrecking Bernadette. Wrecking Bernadette explores the newfound world of Dr. Bernadette Garneau, a Ph.D. in Mathematics who is four months out of a four-year relationship. One good thing about breaking up, though, is that Bernadette is free to explore her repressed sexual desires. It only takes one message from a beautiful and powerful online Mistress and Bernadette is sucked into the world of BDSM. Bernadette has gotten a taste of the life and she wants more. She _needs_ more.
Thank you for joining us, Danielle, and congratulations on your debut novel. Wrecking Bernadette is certainly a great story, one not to be missed.
First off, where did you get the idea for writing Wrecking Bernadette? There are so many misconceptions about BDSM that it seemed unfair to those of us in the lifestyle, so I decided to fictionalize some of my early experiences not only to entertain but to enlighten readers as well. One concept I wanted to get across is that BDSM relationships are ideally built on the foundation of mutual consent while both (or all) parties agree to what may or may not happen.
What experiences helped you write Wrecking Bernadette? Wouldn’t you like to know? LOL. Okay, well, I always knew there was “something” about me that wasn’t quite fulfilled. I shrugged it off for a long time. Just a busy stress-filled life, I reasoned. That was until I stumbled upon a lesbian BDSM novel. Then things started to click. I identified with the submissive character. I explored online. A Domme (female Dominant) scooped me up and, wow, was it exciting. She taught me a lot of amazing life-changing things. But she was also a player, and it wasn’t long before I was unceremoniously discarded. This was how I learned firsthand what the word “ghosting” meant. I had totally been unprepared for a Dominant/submissive (D/s) dynamic. But I had a taste and found people to help me learn and become prepared for when the right relationship came along.
What did you enjoy most about writing Wrecking Bernadette? The parts I enjoyed most about writing the story was that I got to relive my early days in the life. Meeting so many new and fascinating people. Many of them helped me learn about and experience mind-blowing things I never thought possible. Protocols, expectations, poses, rules & consequences, discipline. Reliving all of that was heady.
Were there any particularly difficult parts to write? Absolutely. The CNC (consent non-consent) rape scene was by far the most difficult scene to write. I debated including it. I don’t want to give away too much, but the point I was trying to make with this scene is that all things in BDSM must be consensual. There should be no exceptions.
Wrecking Bernadette with a topic that might be considered a bit risqué or even a bit taboo, were you concerned at all about the subject? Risqué – yes, I will accept that descriptor. But sex is fun. And it’s okay to feel good about it. Taboo – that perceived label is the exact reason why I chose to write about BDSM. I wanted to write a sexy story that would educate and inform and possibly change attitudes about BDSM. We often fear things we know little about.
The acronym BDSM stands for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & submission, Sadism & Masochism. Those are a lot of words with a myriad of meanings. BDSM means different things to different people. We are individuals with many and varied needs and appetites. Paramount to everything, however, is that it be consensual. Personally, I have found relationships shaped by BDSM to be extremely intimate.
Not all of us like pain, but in certain types of pain, pleasure might be found. But you don’t have to be a sadist or a masochist to enjoy Dominance or submission. You can be totally into bondage and discipline and crave the others as well.
Was writing Wrecking Bernadette an empowering experience? Completely empowering. I was able to relive many of the amazing feelings and epiphanies I experienced when first delving into Dominance and submission. It was empowering to finally be able to put a name to what I had been feeling all those years. As a submissive, I craved Dominance but never realized that’s what I had been craving, so I gave that same characteristic to Bernadette, my main character. The next book in the series (and possibly a third) will continue Bernadette’s exploration of those ever-elusive Power Exchange relationships. Power exchange includes a level of modern sexuality in which partners explore sexuality on their own terms in consort with another. Terms that meet each one’s emotional and sexual needs. Sometimes that involves giving over decisions to another. It can be as simple as mutual agreement of giving or of taking control during sexual play only or it may include other aspects of life. It varies within each dynamic.
Are you planning a sequel to Wrecking Bernadette? Already started.
Does it still feel surreal to see your novel in print? Oh, yes, completely surreal... From those PDF proofs to the e-book versions to the physically printed book arriving at my front gate.
If you can think of anything else, any other behind the scenes that reader might like to know, please feel free to include that. I’d love to hear from readers. If there are any aspects of BDSM you’d like to see included in future books, let me know!
Contact me at: DaniGrainger84@gmail.com